Day #26

Psalm 119:114

As a young person I lived in Chicago, where I worked with a city ministry. Determined to live the gospel, sharing the good news with the poor and disenfranchised, I sought out and visited a number of people who lived in the shadier parts of town, shocking some of my friends with what they perceived as “guts” and courage. But I didn’t feel any fear at all. Now, I probably should have taken someone else with me, but then I wasn’t alone, really. Angels walked with me. I could feel their presence. 

The field of psychology called “attachment theory” studies how different styles of attachment formed in childhood affect the way we think, feel, and behave. The ideal put forth by attachment theorists is that a secure attachment to a parent figure is ideal, and sets the child up neurologically and psychologically for self-regulation in adulthood. But secure attachment isn’t clinging—that’s anxious attachment. Secure attachment means the child connects with mommy, then ventures out into the world of play and discovery. The more the child believes mommy will be there when they want to reconnect, the more they face strange, new things with resiliency. 

Religious psychologists have discovered that attachment to God works the same way. When people feel secure in God, they can face the uncertainties of life with more vigor. In the words of one researcher, attachment to God is “inversely associated with distress.” The more connected we feel to the Almighty, the mightier will be our courage to face whatever He brings across our path. 

Breath in courage, breathe out fear. 

Think of the tenderest earthly ties you’ve formed in your lifetime. Perhaps parents, grandparents, a caring adult, or friends. Who, if anyone, has been a “secure bond” for you? Thank God out loud for them right now. 

And if you can truly think of no one—which does happen—thank God that He is your secure base, your hiding place from trouble, your shield from attack, and that as you hope in His Word you will come to know Him more fully. 

Dear Hiding Place and Shield, we all need someone to lean on. Leaning fully on any human will bring us disappointment. But leaning on You, Lord, we will find courage to face the world, and to go anywhere you lead. Lead us today to make a difference, to shine a light in darkness, to provide warmth in the cold of a dying world. In Jesus’ name, amen. 

“You are my hiding place and my shield; I hope in Your word.” Psalm 119:114 

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37 thoughts on “Day #26

  1. Katrina

    Hi Everyone
    There are a few people in my life that I feel secure with- Paul, Deb, Karen.
    I am securely attached to God.
    He knows me and yet loves me and cares for me and tells me I have potential. I can tell Him anything and everything!!! And I think that is the most important. Even though I have a few people in my life that I’m secure with and that I can share almost everything with, there are some things that are only for God’s ears.
    Peace

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  2. Rachel

    I’m so grateful, again and again, for the family God has given me. My mom is one of my best friends. My dad has always been a strong and sacrificing provider for us, and recently I’ve been getting a little closer to him too. ❤ I am securely attached to both of them. My older brother and I also grew out of our sibling squabbling a long time ago now, and I cherish our friendship.

    God is working in me to more securely establish my relationship with Him, too. Thank you, God, for that.

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  3. Daniel Parsons

    Can you name a person in your life with whom you have a secure bond? 

    In childhood, my secure bond person was my grandfather and grandmother. They helped me deal with the chaos and abuse I experienced in my dysfunctional family of origin.

    I think now Patricia, my wife, is my secure bond as far as human beings go. Sometimes we have issues that come up but we always are back to compassion and forgiveness which keeps us married !

    My secure bond with Jesus has been growing day by day with Jesus Meditations ! I like to read all of your comments !

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  4. Kristina

    I have had somewhat secure human bonds growing up and even now but they have been tainted by sin and imperfection. My truly secure bond is with Jesus. I am thankful He is always there for me!

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  5. Valerie

    My secure bonds growing up were my mom and grandma. I cherish the memories with them. Now I would have to say my husband is my most secure earthly bond. I am so thankful for the gift God has given me in him.

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  6. Vanessa

    I can’t choose just one person (what a blessing)! The Lord has given me secure bonds with my father, brother, and friends who help me become better.

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  7. Ann

    My mom and dad were my security. I am so grateful to them. Now, it is the Lord who is my security. I am so thankful to Him.

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  8. Cheryl

    Unfortunately, the semi-secure bonds I thought I had have been broken.

    God has brought some new people into my life and I hope to form new bonds with them.

    God is slowly bringing me to surrendering my life to Him and showing me His love for me through His son, Jesus. I desire this bond more than any other.

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  9. Jane

    I had a secure bond with my dad, but now he’s resting til Jesus comes. I’m growing in my attachment to God, for which I’m grateful.

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  10. Shirley Mann

    Both my parents have died, but I feel I had a secure bond with each of them. I feel now that I have secure bonds with each of my four adult children. I also feel a secure bond with my almost 97-year-old mother-in-law, who lives near me. I still feel close to some of my 4 younger sisters and 4 younger brothers even though I have not lived near any of them for over 55 years now. I don’t think I feel anxious or insecure with any of them. I have really been blessed throughout my life to live with people who loved and respected me and who I could love and respect. Yes, of course there were times when there were disagreements or disappointments, but all in all I’ve had a mostly great life. I’m sure that is because God was part of each of these people’s lives.

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  11. Nicky Dube

    The first two people who come to mind as having a secure bond with are God and my husband. With each of them I feel a sense of security in the relationship and past experiences with them have shown me that I can trust them with my life and my heart.

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  12. Mel

    So thankful for my grandma and my husbands aunt who both were secure solid places I could go to with whatever I was feeling. I miss them both dearly as they’ve both passed on. My husband and mom are still my constants now too. So grateful.

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  13. Amy

    Today my most secure attachments are with my mom, sister and husband. As a child, I would say it was my dad. All these people are human though so I can’t say there is complete security. There have been many issues over the years. I want to develop a closer attachment to God but the anxiety I have about relationships makes this challenging.

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  14. Megan

    I don’t know how to answer this. In a place where I’m questioning what kind of bonds I have. I do know God is faithful and kind, and some people might be (at least, until they turn on you, or abandon you). Which is hopefully never, but it happens, right? Anyway, the main thing is, God isn’t like that… He’s faithful and true.

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  15. Karen

    When I realized God was my Heavenly Father, it was a turning point. My Heavenly Father would never do to me what my earthly father did. I was able to bond with the correct Father and my spiritual life grew immensely. Thank you so much Jennifer for these Jesus meditations. I will be sad when they end! Praying for your success as you produce more of them!

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  16. Sarah

    My mom, especially, and my dad, too. I have a few friends who have stuck with me. Circumstances separated us, but after being emotionally apart for a number of years, we’re getting closer again, and I know that even when time passes without communication, the times we do have together is always as if no time has passed at all. On this side of the world, God has given me a native family who has adopted me. They have been a tremendous blessing over the past few years. Most of all I am thankful that, regardless of which side of the world I’m on, I always have God.

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  17. Sabrina

    My relationship with my mom has been my most secure bond. She’s the person with whom I can be myself and know that her love for me will never change.

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  18. Tara

    Such an educational meditation. I love the psychology bits that I am learning. I would say that I have a very secure bond with my husband. I also experienced a wonderfully secure bond with several of my former colleagues when we worked together in a small school.

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  19. Nowelle

    On earth, I feel like I had/have a secure bond with my father growing up. I have a secure bond with my husband. I want a more secure bond with Jesus.

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  20. Ericka

    i can think of someone i had bonded to as a child – and it always felt like i bonded with this person more than my own parents. i still dont fully feel bonded to my parents, sometimes i dont feel fully bonded to anyone. usually i feel pretty good about my husband but hes going thru a thing and im going thru a thing and its been kinda rough. im not worried, but its kinda a bummer.

    and i guess i have this pretty secure attachment to God, but its not this overly exciting thing that i feel like it “should be” or that it is for others or something. its not flashy or fancy . sometimes it can just feel even just boring, but i dont have doubts, if that counts.. ?

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